COUPLE THERAPY

A couple can go through different phases, starting with the feeling of being deeply in love and perfect for each other. However, this period might be slowly replaced by the perception that your partner might not fulfill all your requirements and, in addition, triggers your wounds from the past. Sometimes this process ends in a separation and sometimes, hopefully, the couple can find deeper love behind the disillusion. 

Most couples live a symbiotic relationship, being emotionally or financially dependent on 

each other and, therefore, trying to fulfill their partner’s expectations rather than living their true self. The dependency’s origin mostly relates to the insecurity in terms of love, warmth or stability that a person has experienced in the past. Fear of losing this safety and being abandoned prevents us from being authentically connected to ourselves or to our partner but rather keeps us connected to our fear.

 

The better connected you are with your inner safety, the more you are free to live your identity, becoming an adult – not just on paper - and to create authentic and meaningful connections around you. Each partner living the “I” in the “We” is the safest and healthiest way to maintain the relationship.

 

Research shows that four evidenced-based skills are necessary for healthy relationships: insight, mutuality, emotional regulation and communication. Insight is described as the ability to recognise and distinguish between your own and your partner’s needs and emotions. Mutuality means to consider both individuals in the relationship. Emotional regulation is the capacity to regulate your emotions by finding safety within yourself which allows you to put situations into perspective. A mindful and clear communication is essential in order to create insight and mutuality and to regulate your emotions.

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I support you in:

• Mindfully listening to your partner;

• Staying present and connected;

• Communicating in a non-judgemental way;

• Getting difficult messages across and keeping the relationship in balance;

• Finding your „I“ in the “We”;

• Strengthening the “We” experience.